Hey Sweet baby boy!
How's my most favorite missionary? I sure hope all is going well with you! We all miss you and pray for you…you are always in our thoughts!
Before I forget…I need a couple of pictures of you…FULL LENGTH! They need to be from a camera (good quality)…that is so that I can get a cardboard cutout of you for Ryan's wedding. If it isn't a good quality, they can't do a full length. So, maybe you should have someone take it on your camera and then send me your data card. If you don't have an extra one, go to walmart and buy a new one. :) It would be nice if there is more than one of them so that we have a good variety to choose from.
So life here is continuing on. Sometimes that does not seem too fun. Tiffany had registration this week. They are trying a new thing at LHS. They have numbers on all of the parking spots…you are assigned a parking spot for the year. Well, Tiffany forgot to get an assigned spot. When we realized it and went back (the next day) ALL of the spots were GONE! How stupid is that! I am freaking out a bit because I have no clue what to do. They have an area BEHIND the stadium where there is maybe 20 parking spots that don't require a permit. So, she will need to get up extra early and get a spot there. I need to see if there is any way she can park at the church. Not sure if they allow that. :(
So, Gpa's tests results were actually good and bad. They do not think he has lung cancer…YEAH!! However, this Valley Fever that he has is a pretty severe case. They have him on medication (anti-fungal) that he has to take 2 in the morning and 2 at night for 6 months. Hopefully, this will be all that he has to do. Not all people with this disease have to be treated…in fact, most of them don't, it is more like a cold. But for a few it can be life threatening. I don't think he is that bad, but it is bad enough that he HAS to be treated. So really, overall, it isn't bad news, it is just that it will take him longer to get better.
Ryan is still struggling. He just has NO motivation. I believe we did him a big disservice when he got off his mission. We felt bad for him since he had to come home and have surgery right away. Then he had major restrictions. We "sold" him our car…but really, we gave it to him. He was handed everything. I don't believe he appreciated what we did for him….then he got super depressed and the anxieties went off the wall. Once again, we felt sorry for him, excused everything he wasn't doing. In other words…we did it ALL wrong. Well, we have learned our lesson! I finally got him to do a garage sale. It was on Friday and Saturday…he worked HARD…he made quite a bit of money. I believe that hard work really made him feel good!! I think what he has been lacking is plain honest hard work! I can't really get him to do anything around the house…so, he needs to get a job. Just looking for one has been like pulling teeth. Every time I try to motivate him, he tells me that he is such a failure. I am an idiot and buy into it and feel sorry for him. Well, tonight I had ENOUGH! I basically told him that he WILL work hard to get a job. If he isn't working, I will "repossess" the car. I will start taking things away from him. He needs to get his butt in gear, or he will NOT be able to provide for himself and Siera. I think he took that pretty well! (ok, as well as can be expected). I explained to him that we cannot pay for all of his living expenses and stuff. Then we had a lesson in RS that talked about how we should not be financing our children…we need to be preparing for our retirement. That really hit me and made me realize that we don't owe him anything.
So, what does this have to do with you? Just know that when you get home, you will be expected to find a job and work. I am not sure if we will be able to afford to get you a car. You may have to go to school without one. We need to be good parents and teach you to be self-sufficient. We will still help you…I am not saying that we won't. I just believe that we will be smarter!!! (does that make sense?)
Dad starts back to work tomorrow after 6 weeks off. I am not sure you could qualify it as a real vacation, especially with all the stress that has been around! I think he will be alright. He may even enjoy work to get him away from everyone here at home…ha,ha.
Tiffany starts school on Tuesday. I have an orientation Thursday and then start next Monday. Gpa is going to be our "extra parent". I have clinicals again in the evenings on Mondays and Tuesday. Gpa will make sure that Tiffany gets her homework done and that dinner gets made. He also offered to keep our laundry going if I teach him how to use our washing machine. (sweet huh?) I hope with him being home, it will help Tiffany not get so depressed because she is alone so often. Gpa is also going to start going to the YMCA. They have a program called Silver Sneakers. On Tues and Thurs they have a water aerobics class that he will go to. I think he is excited about it. I guess on Wednesdays they have a breakfast together and they do potluck dinners and lunches. Maybe this will give him the interaction that he desparately desires.
So, extra prayers all around would be appreciated! I hope this letter isn't too down! Believe it or not, I feel more optimistic about life in general than I have in a while!
Always remember that we love you! We are all so proud of you!!! Mind your p's and q's. Be strictly obedient. Play as hard as you work. Always remember who you are!
Love ALWAYS!
Mom
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